Overcoming Trust Issues
Trust issues have always been one of the significant problems in relationships- no matter the kind of relationship have, you need trust to make it bloom. Millions of people face this challenge every day, and sadly, not everyone has the key to overcome the “plague” that has eaten deep into our relationships.
If you are facing this challenge in your relationship, you are not alone. I had this challenge, but finding solutions to this problem has been an uphill task. I sometimes cry myself to sleep because of the negative thoughts that always pop up in my head whenever I think about a family member or my partner.
I get mad over nothing, it was a plague, and it ate me so deep that I was scared… too scared to get close to someone.
To get a clearer picture of the situation, I have to narrow it down to my relationship with my partner. Everything he does or does not do was suspicious; if he does not call, as usual, I start to feel “maybe is no longer “feeling us” and he is getting ready to quit”.
Hear this, when you start feeding your mind with negative thoughts, the devil will start showing you things that are not even there to begin with. The mind is so powerful that even God told us to be careful of what we think in Proverbs 4:23 “Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.”
You cannot stop a bird from flying over your head, but you can prevent it from building a nest. In the same way, you cannot stop some thoughts from crossing through your mind, but you can stop it from planting a seed that will eventually affect your actions towards the people around you.
Negative thoughts trigger trust issues
The Word of God according to Apostle Paul told us in the book of Philippians 4:8-9 showed us what to think about all the time
“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. 9 The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you.”
When you focus on the good in people, you will start to see the good parts. However, I was watching Pastor Creflo Dollar on his YouTube channel- Overcoming Trust Issues. I must say, it totally changed my orientation about relationships. I will be sharing with you’re a few but power thins I learned just by watching the video.
How to overcome trust issues
I learned while watching the video, that for you to overcome trust issues in your life, you need to be selfless. When you are self-centered, you feel the need other people’s approval; it is the root problem of trust issues. Also, when you think more of yourself, you begin to feel entitled to your partner. According to Pastor Creflo, “you have to consider your partner more than yourself.”
- You deal with trust issues by stop expecting things from your spouse. Instead, do things that please your partners without expecting anything in return. Know this; when you walk in distrust, you consciously or unconsciously want to create an atmosphere of distrust.
- Everything will be fine when both partners start focusing on how to make the other partner happy, instead of focusing on what the partners ought to do for them.
- Trust God to change the life of your partner: a lot of us put more trust on their partners than we put on God.
- Let whatever you have experienced in the past remain in the past, and trust in God our Heavenly Father to tell us who we are in Christ Jesus.