Three Things Your Woman Wants From You
Still, in the celebration of Women’s Day, I would love to share these secrets with you. First of all, you deserve a big thumbs up for attempting to find out why your woman is not happy, and the possible solutions to make your relationship filled with love, happiness and every other good thing you can think of.
Moving on, there are probably one thousand and one things your woman would love for you to do that you are not doing, this article is not created to list out these things, but it will point you to the right direction.
Three things your woman wants from you
Often we hear men complain about the endless list of things women want from them, and how impossible it is, to satisfy the woman in your life. Well, I will say it is a hyperbolic statement; what women want from their men are just three things. As unbelievable as it sounds, it is the truth. However, these things are so crucial that omitting one from the list will take you back to zero. They go hand in hand, and none is more important than the other is.
The three Ps
The three major things women want their men to do is to Protect, Provide, and Profess. If you can do all these for your woman, you will be her hero. Forget the “modern lady” and her Miss independent slogan; women, no matter how strong, prosperous, or independent they are, they still want their men to do these things for them.
Basically, the role of the man in the family is the same as every leader’s role in every establishment. According to the Scriptures, the man’s duty is to lead the wife and his children. Part of being a leader is to protect, protect your woman; one of the essential things a woman wants from you as a man.
Unfortunately, it is easy to get carried away, and not fulfill this need especially in this modern age where women can actually protect themselves with or without the help of a man.
Here is the truth as stated earlier, no matter how strong your woman seems to be, she still wants you to protect her, to defend her, and to assure her safety. When this is missing from the equation, you may get a grouching woman in your house.
So what does it mean to protect your woman? In this context, protection does not just mean defending her against hoodlums. It also means, preventing her from making wrong moves. You need to understand this, women are emotional beings, and sometimes, they make decisions based on their current state of mind, which may not actually be the best. This is when you step in, make her see the dangers ahead.
Secondly, know when to correct her; correcting your woman in the presence of friends, families, or colleagues is not the best. You may end up passing the wrong message, even though you mean well. If she does something that is not right, do it when you are alone with her, and not in front of the kids, parents, friends, or neighbors. This way, you are protecting her image, ensuring no one looks down at her. She will appreciate you for this, and quickly take the correction, than when you do it in public.
Before saying anything further, let us read this scripture together; 1 Timothy 5:8 “ But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”
Another verse shows the connection between love and giving- John 3:16 “For God SO LOVED the world that HE GAVE…”
As a man, no matter how wealthy your wife is, you still need to provide for her… no matter how little, let her see you are trying to provide for her.
Being a man means stepping up to the plate; it means pausing your childhood dreams and focusing on providing for the family. When a woman takes up this responsibility for a long time without the support from her man, she becomes angry, uptight, and upset. She may not know the reason for the tension around the house.
You cannot claim you love your woman and not provide for her; even our Heavenly Father had to prove His love by giving His ONLY begotten Son. John 3:16
Stop being too relax, because your woman is handling the bills; go out there and work! It does not have to be great at first but start from somewhere.
Let me quickly add here; marry someone who understands the benefit of starting small… you cannot be earning $500 and dating a woman who wants nothing but the most elegant things from you. You need to marry someone who is ready to grow with you and not somebody who just want you to spend everything without investing.
Hear this; if you do the first two Ps without this one, you will still have an unhappy woman. Every woman wants to hear her man says the most beautiful things to her. No matter how long you have been in the relationship, never stop professing your love to her; she needs to hear it. You cannot claim you love your wife and not say it; I am sorry, it does not work that way. For out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks- Matthew 12:34. If you love your woman, compliment her, tell her how much you love her, let her know you care, let her know how much she means to you.
“But I protect, and provide for her, isn’t that enough?” the answer is NO; the three Ps are vital if you want a happy, and glowing wife.
Finally, relationships are for the mature minds; if you are not ready to give your best, hold on, and develop yourself, mentally, financially, and spiritually, before diving into a relationship.
Genesis 2:18 “ And the Lord said, it is not good that the MAN should be alone…”
Genesis 2:24 “Therefore shall a MAN leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
Encourage Yourself: The above scriptures clearly state MAN and not a boy; this shows that you have to be mature mentally, spiritually, financially, etc. to start a meaningful relationship. It is hard work, and both parties need to consciously make it work.