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Despicable Me…

What if you did something dispicable, and you couldn't tell anyone, because you have accepted Christ in your life?

How does one define the word despicable? The meaning of despicable is deserving hatred and contempt. 

What if you did something you could never share with anyone? Something so reprehensible, so awful, you are better off keeping it to yourself.

The thing is this, you confess to be a follower of Christ, and yet you couldn’t even contain yourself. It was as if you were void of any understanding at all. You have committed the ultimate sin, and yet you must suffer in silence.

You know very well there isn’t a single soul you could tell, because of the judgment that would be cast down on you. At work, at church, and even family members.

So you sit in a daze often thinking back on that moment in time when your foot slipped and you found yourself in a detestable ordeal. Although you were enjoying the moment. It was yet wrong, wrong for so many reasons. Wrong because he wasn’t my husband, for he belong to someone else.

What if you thought you had it all in control, but this moment clarified the fact that you didn’t. You realized that you are human, and you made a mistake. How do you live with yourself? How do you see his wife and not behave differently?

After you have repented, what do you do? Do you share? Do you stay away from people? Do you fast and pray more? Do you dive head first into your bible more? Is repenting enough?

Are all my good deeds worthless now? I am disgusted by my actions, and have a distaste for this person now. Am I blaming him and not sharing fault in this matter as well? 

Why hasn’t the guilt gone away? Am I making too much of this matter? Maybe I am not making enough of it? 

Encourage Yourself: This is my conclusion on this matter. I was wrong, we were wrong. I have repented and need to totally give it to God to handle. I need to separate myself completely from these people and be in a covenant relationship with trusted individuals.

I must be accountable to God and devoted to my relationship with Christ. I must also shun the very appearance of evil. I must be the virtuous woman the Bible speaks about. 

No longer will I say despicable me, no longer will I hang my head down. I will commit to the singles group at church and minimize my gatherings with married couples. I will even seek professional help if needed.

I will have integrity and a better moral compass. I will speak life into my situation and not death. Most of all I will devote more time to God.

Your Integrity Matters

Integrity is a must, if you fail to show honesty and truth, you are less than trustworthy. You are nothing

Integrity means to do the right thing even when no one is looking. To hold up a standard, to be a cut above the rest. It matters not what others think of you, but ultimately what God sees when he looks at you on judgment day.

Will God say, you worker of iniquity I know you not? or will He be pleased at the choices you have made throughout your spiritual walk with Him?

Many times because people are not looking, we tend to take the lesser road regardless as to what it is. We fail to use our manners, we cut corners on the job, we cheat on our taxes, we tell what we call a little white lie, and we will make excuses for whatever it is we need or want. Regardless of who it hurts or damage.

Integrity is far from our minds when we are in the midst of committing a sin before the eyes of the Almighty God. We could actually care less what others think or feel, as long as it gets us what we want.

It is a sad world we live in today, but the bible is true. Men will be lovers of themselves, rather than showing any concern for our fellow brethren. God is probably anger as He sit high and looks low. As we go about our lives with no thought to the heart of God. No thought to if our Savior is pleased with our actions. The bible states that we will have to give in account for every word or deed we do.

Example: My daughter works for this company, and the person in charge of payroll often alters the timesheets. First by adding extra hours to her friends time, and not giving the proper hours to the ones who actually did their hours. The sad thing is, this young lady has been trusted to be in the office with many important documents. She lacks integrity and honesty, and should be fired, but the boss who we know personally refuses to fire this person because she feels sorry for her.

Why can’t people do the right thing? What is going on in this world? I tell you what it is: the devil is running rampant, he is causing as many as possible to be out of control. His time is running out because Jesus is soon to return, and he is trying to take as many with him as possible.

We must be careful for nothing, the enemy is a trickster and is on his job 24/7. The problem is, we as Christians are not on ours. We must be vigilant, we must fast and pray, we must hold to God’s unchanging hand. Remembering to read our bibles, so that we can know God’s word, which is powerful and true. It is His word that will help you in fighting the attacks of the adversary.

The adversary is our opponent in conflict and dispute, at all times, even until Jesus return! Any little tool he can use against you, he will. Whether it is your lack of integrity, lying, murder, stealing, molestation, slacking on the job, or cursing. Do not be subject to his devices.

Ariana Grande, groped at funeral

Ariana Grande groped by bishop charles ellis at Aretha's funeral Friday August 31, 2018

Ariana  Grande sang Aretha Franklin’s “Natural Woman” at Aretha’s funeral Friday August 31, 2018. My disappointment had begin to over shadow the fact Ariana Grande did an excellent job singing. So allow me to take this moment to say “Well done Ariana”, you ROCK and Aretha would have been satisfied. You are one of the many GREATS.

Bishop Charles Ellis the current pastor of the Greater Grace Baptist Church in Detroit, who officiated the funeral service for Aretha Franklin. Took a moment to hug Ariana Grande
and putting his hand between Ariana’s arm and torso, with his fingers on her side breast.

Escorting her to the podium, Bishop Charles Ellis begin to apologize to Ariana Grande. Starting with a insult, that when he first heard her name, he thought it was something from a Taco Bell menu. Meanwhile his grip on her petite body appeared to overpower  her and his fingers against her breast, with much movement unfortunately .

If you look at Ariana Grande’s face, the discomfort, the shock or disgust that fills her entire being is saddening, while trying to keep her composure in a unfortunate situation, during a sad time for many.

When you can very easily do this type of ungodly act publicly, what on earth would you doing privately? A touch or gesture that should only be done to a spouse. If you can inadequately touch another female as this Bishop did with Ariana’s breast. Then you might just do anything.

Let me give you my view through my disappointment concerning this matter, Bishop Charles Ellis is a foul, inappropriate disgusting being. A very sad excuse for a Bishop I might add. To top everything off, in his apology he made reference to the fact that he crossed the border, instead of crossing the line. Which sounded racist to me. As he spoke in his apology, he had this smirk on his face. There is bsolutely nothing funny about matter.

He could be innocent, but I highly doubt it. He made reference to the fact that they had been in the service all day. That some are less guarded and since the the service was long he was just trying to make light of the service. Let’s call a spade, a spade. Let’s not sugar coat this matter, nor are we going to laugh it off. Come clean or go away dirty, is my motto.

Some said it wasn’t a big deal, but who would say that? It is a big deal, Bishop Charles Ellis crossed the line, not the border as he said, but the line. He was inappropriate and I know God will deal with this ungodly behavior. As angry as I am concerning this topic, I am not his judge and jury, but I am here to speak truth.

This angers me because so much of this type of thing happens so often, and unfortunately in the church. The devastation from such a selfish ugly act does more damage than people realize. It divides the family and discards any trust we are supposed to have in family and preachers.

We will not sweep this behavior under the rug any longer. Tell One, Tell All! The very thought that you would want to deposit your seed inside a minor, a relative, or anyone who isn’t your mate with consent. Is  a disgrace to all, especially God. Trust me God is not pleased. Note that it is a terrible thing to be in the hands of an angry God.

It was also said that only the Hispanic community was insulted by Charles Ellis’ remarks, but let me inform you, that is not a true statement. Many were upset by his actions as well as his comments. Even though Ariana is not Hispanic we saw and heard Bishop Charles Ellis comments and actions, which we frown upon it.

The preacher failed to shun the very appearance of evil. He stood flat footed and allowed the devil to show his ugly head. Even in the church before millions of people looking on. The word of God says that Satan is seeking whom he may devour. Satan is the father of lies, the creator of deceit, as well as one who comes to steal, kill, and destroy. Be not deceived by his devices.

I hope the victims come forth. Tell One, Tell All! If you have been in this situation.  Cry loud and spare not!

ENCOURAGE YOURSELF: Come out Devil from among them! In Jesus name. Our prayers go out to Ariana Grande and her family, and all the other victims.

A Life Of Integrity

Integrity and morals is essential for the children of God, when aiming to make heaven their eternal home.

Integrity is a vital subject in ensuring the success of an individual; it is the virtue that must be acquired for our life to become valuable. It is a man’s greatest asset; Here are some methods on how to build Integrity.

Living a life of discipline is one way to win souls to the Kingdom of God.
When wealth is lost, something tangible is lost, but when character is lost, everything is lost – Billy Graham.
“Character should be considered as one of the greatest assets in the school of success; character will take you where ability can never Bishop Oyedepo.
A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favor rather than silver and golds Proverbs 22:1

What is Integrity?
Integrity is a state of being unimpaired, a state of sound moral principle, upright, honest and sincere. The Hebrew word for integrity is “Tom” which also means “complete or solid.”

It can also be defined as a state of completeness, wholeness, undamaged, and soundness of life. Until sincerity becomes a responsibility, it cannot become a characteristic or your identity. Job 2:3-9 “3 And the Lord said unto Satan, Hast thou considered my servant Job, that there is none like him in the earth, a perfect and an upright man, one that feared God, and eschewed evil? And still, he holds fast to his faithfulness, although thou moved me against him, to destroy him without cause. And Satan answered the Lord, and said, Skin for skin, yea, all that a man hath will he give for his life. But put forth thine hand now, and touch his bone and his flesh, and he will curse thee to thy face.

The Lord said unto Satan, Behold, he is in thine hand, but save his life. So went Satan forth from the presence of the Lord, and smote Job with sore boils from the sole of his foot unto his crown. And he took him a potsherd to scrape himself withal, and he sat down among the ashes. Then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? curse God, and die.” Integrity is not just an action; it is a lifestyle; it is a walk in obedience Psalms 26:1-11, Proverbs 20:7

Integrity is a deliberate act which demands determination, a valuable attribute and truthfulness

Note the list below will help you achieve a more trusted Valuable Attributes and Integrity?
• Moral standard
• Uprightness in dealing with issues
• The sincerity of the heart
• Living holy; living a dedicated life

What are the fundamentals of integrity?
1. Integrity is living within the confines of moral standard, and ethical principles that are not flexible
2. Integrity commits itself to;
a. Character over personal gain
b. People over things
c. Service, over power
d. Principle over convenience
e. Long views over the immediate (temporary pleasure)
3. Integrity is a thing of the heart and not based on credentials; it is different from reputation.
4. Godliness, which is an integral part of integrity, is not a state of “sinlessness,” but desperation to please God as a lifestyle. 1 Timothy 4:7, Acts 24: 16 “And herein do I exercise myself, to have always a conscience void to offense toward God, and toward men.”
5. Integrity is one essential to becoming a leader 1 Kings 9:4 “And if thou wilt walk before me, as David thy father walked, in the integrity of heart, and in uprightness, to do according to all that I have commanded thee, and wilt keep my statutes and my judgments.”
Proverbs 11:3 “The integrity of the upright shall guide them: but the perverseness of transgressors shall destroy them.”

What are the qualities of integrity?
The level of integrity of a man can be related to the following trait;
• The consistency of character Numbers 23:19
• Honest communication Matthew 5:37, 2 Corinthians 1:17
• Transparency 2 Corinthians 4:2
• Humility 1 Peter 5:5, Matthew 23:12
• Placing others before self Philippians 2:3-4
• Fulfilling Promises; as a parent, fulfilling your promises to your children is one way to earn their respect and it gives them more reason to trust you. Many parents make the mistake of uttering promises to their children without fulfilling them. It is wrong, no matter how “inconsequential” you think the promises are, fulfill them because your children are learning fast. Be their role model, let them believe in you.
• Hearty service
• Discipline 1 Corinthians 6:12, 1 Corinthians 9:25-27
• Faithfulness

How to cultivate a life of integrity
Integrity is not a gift; it is the deliberate act to stand steadfast. You cannot have it by mere wishing it; you have to cultivate it.
1. You must be dead to self Romans 8:13
2. Be a man or woman of purpose Dan 1:8
3. Keep the right company Proverbs 13:20
4. Set scriptural standards

Integrity and Conscience
Conscience is simply defined as the moral being within your human being; you cannot build integrity without having a good and pure conscience. There is a correlation between a man’s conscience and its integrity (character).
A strong character is a function of a good conscience; your conscience is your God ordained police officer. So the healthier your conscience, the brighter your destiny Genesis 39:9 “There is none greater in this house than I; neither hath he kept back anything from me but thee, because thou art his wife: how then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?” Joseph lived a life of integrity, no wonder his destiny was an enviable one.
To become a person of sound dedication, you need to maintain a healthy and a sanctified conscience. Acts 24:16  “And herein do I exercise myself, to have always a conscience void to offense toward God, and toward men.”

How to maintain a healthy conscience
1. The Word of God: you need to feed your conscience with the Word of God consistently. Psalms 119:9-11  “ Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed thereto according to thy word. With my whole heart have I sought thee: O let me not wander from thy commandments. Thy word have I hidden in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.”
2. The Spirit of God; The Spirit can help us purge every sinful trait in us according to 1 Corinthians 6:9-11  “9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicator, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor attackers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.”
3. The Blood of Jesus Christ Hebrews 9:14  “How much more shall the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself without spot to God, purge your conscience from dead works to serve the living God?”

What are the benefits of Integrity?
• It earns trust, Integrity cannot be acquired but earned.
• It delivers you from trouble Dan 6:22 “My God hath sent his angel, and hath shut the lions’ mouths, that they have not hurt me: forasmuch as before him innocency was found in me; and also before thee, O king, have I done no hurt.”
• It brings peace Isaiah 32:17-18 “And the work of righteousness shall be peace, and the effect of righteousness quietness and assurance forever. 18 And my people shall dwell in a peaceable habitation, in dwellings, and in quiet resting places
• It ensures divine favor Psalms 5:12
• It brings divine health John 5:1-8, Isaiah 38:1-5
• It empowers you for exploits Genesis 39:9, Job:1-3
• It enhances access to ever increase auction Ecclesiastes 9:8 Psalms 45:6-8
• It empowers access to revelation Psalms 25:14, Proverbs 1:23, Revelation 22:15
• It is the gateway to generational posterity Malachi 3:1-5, Psalms 112:1-3
• It guarantees boldness Proverbs 28:1, Acts 14:3

The areas of integrity?
As Christians, living a life of integrity is not subjected to the church only; we have to prove our decency in all areas of our lives including; business and relationships.
Business: Job 1:1-3 “There was a man in the land of Uz, whose name was Job; and that man was perfect and upright, and one that feared God, and eschewed evil. And there were born unto him seven sons and three daughters. His substance also was seven thousand sheep and three thousand camels, and five hundred yoke of oxen, and five hundred she asses, and a very great household; so that this man was the greatest of all the men of the east.”

Ministry: The credibility of a pastor in the eyes of his members and the outside community is more valuable than his preaching. 1 Samuel 9:6 “And he said unto him, Behold now, there is in this city a man of God, and he is an honorable man; all that he saith comes to pass: now let us go thither; peradventure he can shew us our way that we should go.” Every minister must show integrity in rendering service, utterance, in being accountable, in morals, in humility. 1 Timothy 4:12 “Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in words, in conversation, in charity, spirit, faith, and purity.”
Family: family success is more important to a man of integrity than public success Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ  loved the church, and gave himself for it.”

Psalms 112:1-8 “Praise ye the Lord. Blessed is the man who feared the Lord, that delighted greatly in his commandments. His seed shall be mighty upon earth: the generation of the upright shall be blessed. Wealth and riches shall be in his house: and his righteousness endures for ever. Unto the upright there arises light in the darkness: he is gracious and full of compassion, and righteous. A good man showed favor, and lendeth: he will guide his affairs with discretion. Surely he shall not be moved for ever: the righteous shall be in everlasting remembrance. He shall not be afraid of evil tidings: his heart is fixed, trusting in the Lord. His heart is established, he shall not be afraid, until he sees his desire upon his enemies.”

Leadership: as a leader with integrity, do not take advantage of the “led.” Do not be a ruler leader, but be a servant leader. Ephesians 6:8-9, 1 Peter 5:3, Psalms 78:72

How to manage prosecution in the pursuit of integrity
The pursuit of righteousness comes at a high cost and only those who are strong and willing to pay the price will be able to withstand persecution or adversity that comes with integrity.

To be honorable will attract rivalry, and envy; Jeremiah 1:11-19, 1 Samuel 17:28, Genesis 37:11, 20-21
So how do you manage the persecution?
• Consider God’s opinion, it’s the only that should matter in your life 2 Corinthians 9:18
• Whatever negative name you are called, make it a point of duty to prove them wrong.
• Do not fight back, let God avenge you. Romans 12:19
• Do not give room for bitterness, Hebrews 12:14-15
• Take heed to yourself, 1 Peter 5:8
• Do not look back, 2 Corinthians 10:12
• Practice love towards your enemies
• Don’t be afraid, Isaiah 8:9-14

This teaching will help you live a life of integrity, whenever you feel discouraged, ask for help, the Holy Spirit will guide and empower you. If you are a parent, ensure to teach your children the importance of ethical principle.